7 Sex Mistakes That Couples Make
And How To Avoid Them

Sex mistakes??? Yes!... Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often end up making their experiences LESS fulfilling by doing one of several of these following mistakes?

Sex mistakes??? Yes!... Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often end up making their experiences LESS fulfilling by doing one of several of these following mistakes?

Let’s find out what are the 7 most common lovemaking mistakes to avoid when trying to spice up sex...

Directly from Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb, author of 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets:

Over the years, I've seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I'd like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

SEX MISTAKE #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking, but were afraid of what your partner may think?

Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they're just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don't need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That's nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren't crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

SEX MISTAKE #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works.

On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical 'adrenaline' into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy to make love. So here's how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they're tired:

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? 

Give him Fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 ­- 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day.

For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He'll like that.

Guys: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest 'turn-ons' for women. 

Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too.

Give some attention to her neck; ­­it will drive her wild. But don't rush this!

Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

SEX MISTAKE #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay, so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms?

That's right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

So SLOOOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)

If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they'll want it.... And the more intense their experience will be.

There are many foreplay games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

(Ladies: This mistake comes mostly from men, and we all know that... But, if your man is not reading or searching about ways to improve sex, then it comes up to you to convince him of the importance and great rewards that foreplay will bring him!

Women love foreplay, but just telling your man how much you love it may not be enough to convince him. You need to tell him what's in it for him, tell him how much turn on you will get, and how much he will enjoy that.

Men love the feeling of pleasing their woman. Explain to him how a longer foreplay is almost a surefire way to mind blowing orgasms!

He will want that! ;)

Guys: As simple as it can be: Foreplay is needed to warm up your woman's body and mind, and put her in the mood for sex.

Now, a prolonged foreplay increases your chances of giving her amazing orgasms... And even multiple orgasms! If you’re skipping foreplay, you're missing out more pleasure that you can imagine!Angie. 

SEX MISTAKE #4: Using toys or porn to make your lovemaking better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thing will instantly takes things through the roof.

Wrong!… While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don't want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you?

Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their partner's body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

(Ok, I have to disagree on this one. Porn and specially toys are great ways to spice up sex. They always add fun and variety!

Porn is something that men really love, and you both can enjoy together... It puts some spice to sex.

Now toys, in my opinion, can definitely not only spice up your sex life, but also take it to another level!

As a woman, I can tell you that the different and amazing sensations that toys can make you feel, is something that first, you don’t want to miss out! And second, they can turned on the woman so much that it will drive the man crazy!...

Making you guys have some of the best sex and the best orgasms of your lives!...This is especially helpful for long term couples.

Now, I agree with Michael in that you should not rely on them, and use them as a spice, not the main course) Angie.

SEX MISTAKE #5: Trying to “finish” at the same time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first.

Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable, and instead, make love in ways that are most pleasurable for the lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

SEX MISTAKE #6: Sticking to a “set routine” too often

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar?

(Oh! WOW! Sounds familiar? Sounds terrible!!... Pathetic!!... Please avoid falling into this one by all means!Angie. 

No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.

SEX MISTAKE #7: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse

Men often feel "unmanly" if they can't satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can't achieve orgasm through normal sex.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there's no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of Cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

(This one is a huge one! Men need to learn how to master different ways to give their woman multiple orgasms.

Guys: Hopefully you are open to learn even more, check the part of my website that is entirely dedicated to teach men different ways to give mind blowing multiple orgasms to their woman!...

Ladies: Try to persuade your man to take a look at the multiple orgasms part of the website ... He’s gonna learn a lot, and you will be highly pleased! Trust me ;) Angie. 

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.

That's the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover a newfound enthusiasm to make love, and even make love more often.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. 

There you have it! It all comes down to VARIETY!!! This will prevent to fall into undesirable routines that with time can kill the passion...

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets is by far the best source of ideas to add variety that I've found to recommend you. This guide has a HUGE list of easy to follow ideas to Spice Sex Up and avoid routine.

I like this E-book because it does not require for you to sit down and read the whole thing to take advantage of it; instead, it is like a sex menu that you can just open up anytime you want and grab some HOT idea to spice up the night! ;)... It has too many great things to try that you guys will never run out of ideas! 

And even better, with each idea that the author suggests, he's not only adding creativity and variety to your sex life, he's actually also teaching you great sex tips and techniques... He even tells you what mistakes to avoid!

Definitely, a valuable tool to add your sex tool box! ;)... Take a look at it here.

Angie :)

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