How To Perform Anal Sex
To Make It Pleasurable For Her Instead Of Painful

Hi Guys! It’s crucial for you to learn how to perform anal sex properly if you don’t want to hurt your woman, and if you expect her to like it instead of hate it. (Ladies click here)

Hi Guys! It’s crucial for you to learn how to perform anal sex properly if you don’t want to hurt your woman, and if you expect her to like it instead of hate it. (Ladies click here)

Anal sex has a bad reputation as far as being taboo, dirty, and painful.

The reality is that there’s nothing wrong with practicing this sexual activity, and it shouldn't be painful for her, if done right.

There could be some normal discomfort at the beginning, especially the first few times while she learns how to relax her body and while her anus gets used to the penetration, but other than that, anal sex shouldn't be painful...

If it hurts, you guys are doing something wrong. Either you’re not using enough of a good lubricant, she’s not enough relaxed, or you’re going to fast or too hard.

So, let’s check how to perform anal sex to make it pleasurable instead of painful:

1. Relax her mind

Relaxation plays a crucial role in anal sex for her to feel pleasure instead of pain. First, she needs to relax her mind to be able to relax her body.

The first step for her to be relaxed is communication. Yes! You guys need to talk about it in advance, and you both must have previously agreed on trying anal sex; so she’s mentally open about it, and ready for it.

She won’t be relaxed if she’s not sure about having anal sex. For this kind of sexual activity, no matter how much you want it or how much she wants to please you, if she’s not convinced or if she’s scared, this will definitely be painful.

This is the kind of sex that requires for you to really take your time to make her feel comfortable enough to try.

Let her know how gentle and careful you will be. Assure her that you will do only what she wants and in the pace that she wants it. Promise her that you will stop if she wants to, and do it!

Make sure you build up trust on her, so she would feel comfortable enough to give it a try.

2. Relax her body

After relaxing her mind, now you need to relax her body for her anus to be able to accommodate your penis.

If she’s tensed up, her anus will be tensed up as well, and the penetration will be very difficult and extremely painful.

Therefore, once she’s agreed to try it, go ahead and relax her body with lots of foreplay!

Take your time here, and do everything she likes to arouse and relax her. Kiss and caress her all over her body. Also, massages and oral sex works wonders here to warm her up.

3. Find a comfortable position

Finding a comfortable position is key for successful anal sex. Choose a position where she can be totally relaxed. She shouldn't be worry about holding the position. Remember that the most relaxed she is, the more enjoyable and less painful would be for her.

Also, make sure you chose a position that facilitates penetration. The easier the access, the less discomfort she would feel.

Doggy style is a good option. It facilitates the access and is comfortable for her, especially when you put pillows underneath her, so she can just lie and relax.

4. Use lots and lots of lubricant

Have ready a good anal sex lubricant. Never attempt to have anal sex or any kind of anal play without using a lubricant.

Her anus is actually not designed for having sex; therefore, it doesn’t lubricate itself. If you don’t provide lots of good lubrication, it would be very painful for her, and you may even end up tearing something inside or outside her anus.

* Water-based lubricant: Is a good option because it will not break the condom.

* Oil-based lubricant: Is the not the best option if you are using a condom because oil will break the latex.

* Lotions and Creams: Are way too thick, and won’t do here.

* Your own spit: Is NOT enough lubrication for anal sex! You need the lubricant.

* Silicone-based lubricant: Is the best option here. This one makes the penetration easier and won’t break the condom.

Pour lots of lube in her anus as well as in your penis, fingers, and anal sex toys (if you’re using them).

5. Relax her “butt area” with your fingers

Now that her body is relaxed and she’s in a comfortable position, you need to relax her “butt area”. Caress, kiss, and massage her butt, and slowly start using your fingers.

Put lots of lube on her and your fingers, and start using your pinky. Go very slowly and gently, giving her time to get used to the sensation. Now, switch to your ring finger.... And then, your middle finger.

This kind of stimulation will gradually open and relax her anus to be able to handle something bigger... Your penis.

When you start fingering her, tell her to breathe deeply and relax all her muscles, especially the ones outside and inside her anus. The more she relaxes, the more these muscles will expand and be able to accept the penetration.

Use your fingers to massage her anus, and always pay attention to her reactions, and do what she says. If she says to go slower... Do it. If she says that hurts... Stop! 

If you see that she can handle your finger, she may be able to handle your penis; but, if she can’t even handle your finger, she won’t be able to handle your penis, so it’s better for you to stop and try some other time.

Finger stimulation on her anus is a very important pre-anal sex. Don’t skip this step!

Never stick your penis in there right away!

Remember, this is not a vagina!

You need to work it out gradually.

6. Go in very very very slow.... And gentle!

After you have stimulated her anus with your finger for a while, she should be ready for your penis.

If this is her first attempt for anal penetration, using a small anal sex toy, instead of or before your penis, could be a great way to gradually get her used to the new sensation of having something bigger going in there.

Whether you guys choose to try a small anal sex toy first, or you choose to go directly with you penis, do it very, very, very slowly and gently. Stop if she ask you, and go slower anytime she needs to.

This is the most delicate moment, you need to be extremely careful to not hurt her.

Use lots of lube, take your time, give her lots of time too, and pay attention to her reactions. Always do what she says. If she says stop... Do it!

So, once she’s ready for you to insert your penis and you have applied lots of lube in her anus and your penis, tell her to relax by taking deep breaths, and ask her to try opening her anus by pushing her anal muscles outward to facilitate the penetration.

Now, press your penis against her anus, applying pressure.

Slowly start sliding only the tip of your penis, and stay still to give her time to get used to the sensation of having something bigger going in there.

You will feel the ring of her muscles around the anus tighten and relax. Don’t move your penis just let the muscles work.

When the muscles relax you have two options, you can either remove your penis and gradually insert it again going a little bit deeper, or if she can handle it, you can keep your penis inside and just insert it a little bit further and further as far as she can handle it.

This choice will basically depends on what she feels the best for her. She may want you to remove her penis and relax to try again, or she may want you to keep going.

Actually, the most uncomfortable part for her would be the initial penetration, so once the tip of your penis is already in there, it would probably be better for her if you keep going in, so she doesn't have to feel the discomfort of the initial penetration again.

So, if she can handle it, keep the penis inside and just stop to give her a break, and keep going in very slowly stopping every time she needs to. If she prefers you to take your penis out, do it.

Once your penis is already inside, remember to go at her pace, thrusting slowly and gently until she says she can handle a little bit more.

Anal sex can be very pleasurable or very painful; it all depends on how gentle you perform it.

And depending on how gentle you are...

She will like it or hate it! 

Have lots of patience and take your time!

No matter how much aroused you are, do NOT thrust her too hard or too fast because you can hurt her.

7. Keep it clean and safe

Remember to NEVER switch from her anus to her vagina because you could spread bacteria, and give your partner a vaginal infection.

If use a condom (which you should do) replace it with a new one before going to her vagina, and if you are not using a condom, wash your penis thoroughly with water and soap before entering her vagina. Same goes for the fingers and toys!

There you have it!... 

How to perform anal sex, the right way!...

Not every woman gives her man this gold opportunity, don’t screw it up! Be gentle and patient! Never rough! Or, you can lose all your chances to go back in there.

It takes lots of trust for a woman to let her man have anal sex with her, once she agrees, it may take some time for her to get used to it and like it.

But, if you are gentle and patient enough, and if she keeps trying and learning how to relax and pass by the initial discomfort, she could learn to LOVE the kind of pleasure and unique orgasms that only anal sex can give!

To make sure you know everything that you MUST know to have anal sex with her in a safe and pleasurable way, I recommend you to take a look at Anal Pleasure For Her.

This is by far the best source that I've found to recommend you to master everything about anal sex.

Here, the author Gabrielle Moore goes in deep into every single aspect you must learn about this sexual activity. From precautions and recommendations... to tips and techniques to give her anal orgasms. 

You will learn the best anal sex positions, the best lubricants, toys... Even how to get her to like it! You must know ALL this info if you want to make sure that you know exactly what to do to make your lady feel comfortable.

So, take some time and learn more about anal sex. Click here to check Anal Pleasure For Her... Trust me, the extra time will be well worth it when you'll able to give her those powerful anal orgasms!

Angie :)

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