How To Have Anal Sex The Wrong Way:
10 Mistakes That Make It Painful

You want your woman to like having anal sex with you... Don't you? Well, make sure you know how to have anal sex the right way!... Not the wrong way! (Ladies click here)

You want your woman to like having anal sex with you... Don't you? Well, make sure you know how to have anal sex the right way!... Not the wrong way! (Ladies click here)

Let’s discover what NOT to do when it comes to anal sex! 

Check out the biggest 10 common mistakes that make anal sex painful instead of pleasurable:

1. Not using lube

Not using lubricant is the biggest mistake you can ever make while performing anal sex. This is the surefire way to give her a very painful experience... Possibly the first and the last!

Using a lubricant is not an option when it comes to anal sex...

It is a MUST!

Her anus has not been designed for sex; therefore, it doesn’t lubricate itself. If you don’t provide enough lubrication, you will not only hurt her, but also you could tear something outside and inside of her anus causing a possible trip to the hospital.

Keep in mind that your spit would NOT be enough here. You need to use lots of a good lubricant. Choose one specifically designed for anal sex, if you can.

2. Not using enough of the appropriate lube

When it comes to anal sex, using a good big amount of the best lube you can get will definitely make the difference. Don’t try to save lubricant here, the more you use, the easier the penetration will be, and the less painful will be for her.

Try to buy a good lubricant specifically designed for anal sex.

* Silicone-based lube: Is your best option here because it facilitates the access, will not break the condom, and is not easily absorbed by the body.

* Water-based lube: Is also a good option, but this is absorbed faster by the body, so the silicone one tends to last longer.

* Oil-based lube: Will break the latex in the condom.

* Creams: Are way too thick.

* Your own spit: Is NOT enough lubrication for anal sex.

3. She’s not relaxed enough

Relaxation is the key for her to feel pleasure instead of pain. If she’s tensed up, the muscles of her anus will be tensed up as well, making the penetration more difficult and painful.

Relaxation is a job of both of you guys.

First, you need to relax her by letting her know that you will be gentle enough to not hurt her, and assuring her that you will do it at her pace and you will stop if she wants to.

Then, you relax her body with lots of foreplay, and hopefully, a nice massage or even oral sex (analingus would work wonders here).

Now, when you're about to start with your fingers, it's time for her to breathe deeply and relax her body and muscles, especially the ones on the outside and inside of her anus.

The more she relaxes, the less pain she will feel; the more she tight up her anus, the more it closes - making the penetration very difficult and painful.

4. Skipping the foreplay

Foreplay should be part of every sexual act, but when it comes to anal sex, it is crucial!

You need to relax your woman with lots and lots of foreplay. It’s normal for her to be nervous about having anal sex because her anus is not specifically designed for penetration; so, this kind of sensation is not natural for her and may be uncomfortable.

Therefore, you need to relax her the best you can to minimize the tension when it comes to the actual penetration.

Remember: The more relaxed you get her, the better the chances are that she can enjoy it instead of feeling pain.

5. Choosing the wrong position

Choosing the wrong position can make things harder to handle.

You can get all the creative you want with vaginal intercourse, but when it comes to anal sex, choose a position where she’s comfortable enough to be relaxed, as well as, a position that facilitates the access - to make it as easy as possible.

She shouldn't be holding the position, so use all the pillows you need to make her feel stable and comfortable.

A good position for anal sex is doggy style. Have some pillows underneath her, so she can just lie and relax, and you can have her body lifted at an angle that facilitates the penetration.

6. Skipping using the fingers before the penis

Use your fingers to help warming up her anus. They will relax and open the area to accommodate something bigger... Your penis.

Skipping using your fingers, to slowly and gradually stimulate her anus, is like sticking your penis in her vagina with any kind of foreplay!... No wait!... It's so much worse than that!

When it comes to anal stimulation, you must build it up slowly and gradually, using first your smallest finger, then your ring finger.... then you middle finger; and after she has been used to the sensation for a while, then you can start trying using your penis.


DO NOT just stick your penis in there right away!

Use your fingers first.

7. Penetrating her too fast

Ok, guys... Remember, this is not a vagina! You can not go in her “back door” as fast as you could go in her vagina.

As you have been able to see, anal sex requires a special preparation that you MUST do before even attempt to get your penis close to her anus, unless you want to scare her off and lose your chance.

Slowly and gradually build up your way to use your penis, and once you are inside of her - always keep in mind that if you go too fast you may hurt her. Unless she tells you that she can handle something faster, stick with a pace that she’s ok with it.

Oh! And remember guys... Never ever surprise her by sticking your penis in her butt without her contentment!... Unless, you want to really hurt her and piss her off!

8. Penetrating her too hard

Penetrating too hard goes along with penetrating her too fast as two huge hurtful mistakes.

Being gentle is a must to perform anal sex if you don’t want to hurt her.

Remember, how to have anal sex... Real anal sex! It is way too far from being what you see in porn. Don’t ever attempt to perform it as you see it in porn because you will end up hurting your woman.

Professional porn stars are probably already stretched out and may be using some numbing cream or gel to dull the pain. Also, before starting the film, they may also have applied tons of lube inside her anus to make it doable.

Don’t believe everything you see in porn, and never make it your source of learning!

Always be extremely careful and gentle while penetrating your lady, either with your fingers, penis, or a sex toy. Pay attention to everything she says, and go by her pace.

Stop if she says it hurts!

9. Using numbing creams

You may think that using numbing creams will avoid her feeling pain, and that may sound like a good solution. But, the reality is that numbing the pain will not let her know when it is hurting her; therefore, you could be tearing something, and she won’t know until it's too late.

Pain is a sign that something is going wrong and need to be stopped. She needs to able to feel everything to tell you when to stop if it hurts.

10. Using the wrong sex toys

Using the wrong sex toys may end up in a painful, dangerous, and embarrassing trip to the hospital.

This could happen when the toys get lost in her anus, which has “no end” like her vagina. For this reason, you need to make sure the sex toys you use are specifically designed for anal play, and that these have a wide, flared base, a cable or ring on the bottom that keeps the toy from sliding too far into her anus.

There you go! These mistakes represent how to have anal sex... The Wrong Way!

If you make sure that you’re not falling into any of these mistakes, anal sex should be a very pleasurable experience for your woman.

Now, to make sure that you have all the knowledge you need to avoid mistakes and give your Lady lots of pleasure, I recommend you to take a look at Anal Pleasure For Her.

This is by far the best anal sex guide that I've found where you can learn EVERYTHING you need to MASTER anal sex. From precautions and recommendations to the best anal sex tips and techniques.

Seriously guys, the real biggest anal sex mistake you can make is actually - Not learning the proper way to perform it. Invest some time in reading this guide, follow all its guidance, and take your time with your Lady. Achieving anal pleasure is a process that takes time and patience. Take things slowly and gently and she will be open to keep trying.



If it does... 

Check out what you’re both doing wrong, and fix it!

Angie :)

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