Does Anal Sex Hurt?
10 Mistakes That Make Anal Sex Painful Rather Than Pleasant


Does anal sex hurt???... YES, it can hurt, but NO, It should not hurt. It depends on how it is performed. Anal sex can be an extremely pleasurable experience or a very painful one.


Does anal sex hurt???... YES, it can hurt, but NO, It should not hurt. It depends on how it is performed. Anal sex can be an extremely pleasurable experience or a very painful one.

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It’s actually possible to feel some kind of discomfort, especially at the beginning, or in your first time(s); but, anal sex should not be painful.

If it’s hurting you... You guys are certainly doing something wrong.

Let’s discover 10 mistakes that make anal sex painful rather than pleasant:




1. Not using lube

Not using lubricant is the biggest mistake you guys can ever make while performing anal sex. This is the surefire way to get a very painful experience... Possibly the first and the last!

Using a lubricant is NOT an option when it comes to anal sex, it is a MUST!

Your anus has not been designed for sex; therefore, it doesn’t lubricate itself. If your partner doesn’t provide enough lubrication, he will not only hurt you, but he also could tear something outside and inside of your anus causing a possible trip to the hospital.

Keep in mind that his spit would NOT be enough here. He needs to use lots of a good lubricant. Choose one specifically designed for anal sex, if you can.

So, does anal sex hurt without lube?... You bet it does!


2. Not using enough of the appropriate lube

When it comes to anal sex, using a good big amount of the best lube you can get will definitely make the difference. Don’t try to save lubricant here; the more you guys use, the easier the penetration will be, and the less painful will be for you.

Try to buy a good lubricant specifically designed for anal sex. Silicone-based lube will be your best option here because it facilitates the access and will not break the condom.

Water based is also a good option, but this is absorbed faster by the body, while the silicone one tends to last longer.

Oil-based lubricant will break the latex in the condom, and his spit is not enough lubrication for anal sex.


3. You’re not relaxed enough

Relaxation is the key for you to feel pleasure instead of pain. If you’re tensed up, the muscles of your anus will be tensed up as well, making the penetration more difficult and painful.

Relaxation is a job of both of you guys.

First, he needs to relax you by...

* Letting you know that he will be gentle enough to not hurt you.

* Assuring you that he will do it at your pace.

* Promising you that he will stop if you want to.

Then he must relax your body with...

* Lots of foreplay...

* Hopefully a nice massage...

* Even oral sex (analingus would work wonders here).

Now, it's your turn to relax...

When he’s about to start with his fingers is time for you to breathe deeply and relax your body and muscles, especially the ones on the outside and inside of your anus.

The more you are relaxed the less you will feel pain; the more you tighten up your anus, the more it closes - making the penetration very difficult and painful.


4. Skipping foreplay

Foreplay should be part of every sexual act, but when it comes to anal sex, it is crucial!

He needs to relax you with lots and lots of foreplay. It’s normal for you to be nervous about having anal sex because your anus is not specifically designed for penetration; so, this kind of sensation is not natural for you and may be uncomfortable.

Therefore, he needs to relax you the best he can to minimize the tension when it comes to the actual penetration.

Remember the more relaxed you get, the better the chances are that you can enjoy it instead of feeling pain.


5. Choosing the wrong position

Choosing the wrong position can make things harder to handle.

You guys can get all the creative you want with vaginal intercourse, but when it comes to anal sex, choose a position where you’re comfortable enough to be relaxed, as well as, a position that facilitates the access to make it easier as possible.

You shouldn't be holding the position, so use all the pillows that you need to feel stable and comfortable.

A good position for anal sex is doggy style. Have some pillows underneath your belly, so you can just lie and relax, and he can have your body lifted at an angle that facilitates the penetration.


6. Skipping using the fingers before the penis

Using his fingers helps to warm up your anus, relaxing and opening the area to accommodate something bigger... His penis.

Skipping using his fingers to slowly and gradually stimulate your anus, is like sticking his penis in your vagina with any kind of foreplay!...

No wait!... It's so much worse than that!...

When it comes to anal stimulation, he must build it up slowly and gradually, using first his smallest finger, then his ring finger.... then his middle finger, and after you have been used to the sensation for a while, then he can start trying to use his penis.

Therefore, do not let him just stick his penis in there right away! Make him use his fingers first.


7. Penetrating you too fast

Remind him this is not a vagina! He cannot go in your “back door” as fast as he could go in your vagina. As you have been able to see, anal sex requires a special preparation that he MUST do before even attempting to get his penis close to your anus.

He must slowly and gradually build up his way to use his penis, and once he’s inside of you, always keep in mind that if he goes too fast, he may hurt you. Unless you tell him that you can handle something faster, he must stick to a pace that you are ok with.

Oh! And remember ladies... Tell him to NEVER dare to surprise you by sticking his penis in your butt without your consent!... Unless, he wants to really hurt you and piss you off!


8. Penetrating you too hard

Penetrating you too hard goes along with penetrating you too fast as two huge hurtful mistakes. Being gentle is a must to perform anal sex, if he doesn't want to hurt you.

Remind him that real anal sex is way too far from being what he sees in porn. Tell him to NEVER attempt to perform it as he sees it in porn because he will end up hurting you.

Professional porn stars are probably already stretched out, and may be using some numbing cream or gel to dull the pain. Also, before starting the film, they may also have applied tons of lube inside her anus to make it doable.

Don’t believe everything you guys see in porn and never make it your source of learning.

He must always be extremely careful and gentle while penetrating you either with his fingers, penis or a sex toy. He must pay attention to everything you say and go at your pace. Make him promise you to stop if you say it hurts.


9. Using numbing creams

You may think that using numbing creams will avoid you feeling pain, and that may sound like a good solution...

But, the reality is that by numbing the pain, you will not know when it is hurting you; therefore, he could be tearing something and you won’t know until it's too late.

Pain is a sign that something is going wrong and need to be stopped. You need to able to feel everything to tell him when to stop if it hurts. Be aware of lubricants with numbing ingredients, as well.

So, does anal sex hurt if you use numbing creams?... No, it will not hurt at the moment... But, it will be very painful later if he tears something inside.


10. Using the wrong sex toys

Using the wrong sex toys may end up in a painful, dangerous and embarrassing trip to the hospital.

This could happen when the toys get lost in your anus, which has “no end” like your vagina. For this reason, you guys need to make sure the sex toys you use are specifically designed for anal play.

Also, make sure the toys have a wide, flared base, a cable or ring on the bottom that keeps the toy from sliding too far into your anus.

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So... Does anal sex hurt?... Well, if you guys make sure not to fall into any of these mistakes, anal sex should not hurt, and it should be a very pleasurable experience for you.

Make sure you are very well informed about what to do and what not to do. Anal sex can be very pleasurable or very painful depending on how it is performed.

Remember: Anal sex shouldn't hurt!... If it does, check out what you’re both doing wrong, and fix it.


From here... My recommendation?

1. Are you simply curious about anal sex? Look around my site you'll find useful information that will give you an overall idea about it.

2. Are you planning to engage in anal sex and want to know every detail, advice and technique on it? Go ahead and read Anal Pleasure For Her. This guide is entirely focused in anal sex and will teach you and your man everything you both need to know to master it.

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