Okay Ladies! So, you’ve agreed to give dirty talk in bed a try... Good idea! Dirty talk is a great way to spice up your sex life!... But, it can also cause embarrassment and uncomfortable situations if it’s not done right.
There are 5 main potential mistakes that women tend to make when experimenting with dirty talk.
I brought you this article from the creator of Dirty Talk Secrets, Michael Webb, Oprah love expert; for you to check and avoid these mistakes at all costs!
Save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong!... Read this first!
Enjoy it ;)
Mistake 1: Emulating the Dirty Talk in Porn Films
A good deal of women are turned off by porn, but most men love it!
However, that does not mean that they want to hear that kind of dirty talk from their woman. So, try not to emulate the kind of phrases from some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason.
Mistake 2: Making the Dirty Talk Unbelievable
Be aware that talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, “your cock is so huge”, when in reality is only about 3 inches isn’t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud.
Sure, indulge a little, but don’t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly.
Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you.
Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations in His Head
When you’re using dirty talk, don’t tell him about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. Threesomes, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.)...
You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his mind that he could continue to ask you to talk about, and then want to act them out in real life.
Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk as the Sizzle Rather Than The Spice
Talking dirty can also become redundant (just like missionary sex day after day after day).
Make sure that you don’t use the same phrases, over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, “Ok… I’ve heard that so many times… please shut up already.”
Mistake 5: Giving Up When It’s Not Turning Him On
Sometimes talking dirty can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It’s okay to laugh! But don’t give up. There’s actually a lot to learn! It’s not just the words you say!
There you go! These are the most common mistakes made when trying dirty talk in bed according to Michael Webb. In his book "Dirty Talk Secrets" he gets deeper into each one of these and gives lots of great examples on how to talk dirty to turn your man on!
What I like the most about his book is that he shows 3 levels of dirty talk and you can choose what level you feel more comfortable with. You can choose from sexy phrases, spicy phrases, or the really dirty ones! He gives you plenty of examples.
I think this is very important because many women don't try talking dirty in bed because they don't see themselves saying some of the really dirty stuff. Personally, there are some really dirty phrases that I don't feel comfortable saying to my man, but there are some many others that I find very hot! So, I'm sure you'll also find the level of spiciness you feel comfortable with.
I really recommend you to give a try to dirty talk if you want to add variety to your sex life because it can be really sexy and turn your man soo much!... But, make sure you read Michael's guide first to ensure you know what to say and avoid embarrassing moments ;)
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