12 Most Common Anal Sex Questions And Answers

Hey Ladies!... Have some anal sex questions in your mind?... Is anal sex safe? Does it hurt? What’s the best lubricant? Best position?... (Guys click here)

Hey Ladies!... Have some anal sex questions in your mind?... Is anal sex safe? Does it hurt? What’s the best lubricant? Best position?... (Guys click here)

There are simply lots of important information about anal sex that everyone should know to make it safe and pleasurable.

Therefore, I decided to put together the most common questions and answers that most people have about anal sex. Take a look at them:

1. Is anal sex safe?

This is a very important anal sex question. Anal sex can be safe or dangerous depending on how you perform it.

To make it safe, you must always use protection to avoid STDs transmission, and make sure your partner never switch from anal sex to vaginal sex before cleaning up or changing condoms because he can spread bacteria and cause you a vaginal infection.

Also, remember the anus was not designed for penetration; therefore, to make it safe, always make sure he uses lots of a good anal lubricant and goes very very slow and gentle with you.

If he doesn’t use enough lubricant and/or he thrusts you too rough, he can cause tears outside and inside your anus; this is very painful and can be dangerous.

One last thing: Use appropriate anal sex toys. Choose the ones that have a wide, flared base or ring on the bottom that avoid the toy from sliding too far into the anus. Homemade sex toys or vaginal sex toy can get lost in the anus and cause a very painful trip to the hospital.

2. Should anal sex hurt?

This is probably the most common anal sex question. Anal sex can hurt, but it should NOT hurt. Anal sex is uncomfortable for you at the beginning, especially the first few times, but other than that it shouldn’t hurt. If it hurts, you guys are doing something wrong.

You must first agree on having anal sex, and your partner should never attempt to penetrate you “by surprise” without your concern.

Also, make sure he warms you up and get you relaxed very very well... 

The more you’re relaxed, the easier the penetration, and the less discomfort you will feel.

He must always start the penetration slowly and gradually....

First, he should use his fingers, starting with his pinky and building his way up to the middle finger. Only after you've been able to handle his fingers, you may be able to handle his penis. If you can’t handle his finger, you won’t be able to handle his penis.

And the most important thing, if you say “it hurts” he MUST stop! The pain is the way your body has to tell you that something is going wrong. He may be causing some tears; so, it’s better to stop and try some other time with more lubricant and more warm up.

3. Can it get dirty?

It doesn’t need to get dirty, but it can get messy. Let’s face it!... The anus was designed to flush things out not to have sex; so, if you want to use this part of the body for sexual pleasure too, you must accept and be comfortable with the fact that it can get messy.

If you think you and your partner can handle it without making a big deal out of it, then go ahead and try to have anal sex, but if the idea grosses you guys out, then anal sex is not for you.

Now, keep in mind that your regular cleaning habits should keep everything under control and also fecal matter is stored in the vowel, not in the anal canal, so most of the times, it shouldn’t be a problem.

4. Can bacteria get spread and cause infections?

Yes, bacteria can get spread and cause you a vaginal infection if he switches from anal sex to vaginal sex without changing condoms or washing his penis with water and soap.

Also his fingers, mouth and toys can spread bacteria, so make sure he washes everything thoroughly before switching, or even better, don’t switch at all!.

5. Can I get STDs from anal sex?

Sure you can, just as with vaginal sex or oral sex, if you don’t use protection you can get an STD, and getting something in this area of the body is harder to handle; so, always use a condom even if you are in a monogamous relationship.

This is actually a very important anal sex question!

You must keep in mind that anal sex is a bit more risky when it comes to STD’s than traditional vaginal sex because the risk of exposure to blood and other bodily fluids is much higher.

6. Are anal sex toys safe?

Using sex toys is safe as long as you use the proper ones. Make sure you buy toys made specifically for anal sex. These should have a wide, flared base or ring on the bottom that avoid the toy from sliding too far into the anus.

Remember that the anus does not have an “end” like the vagina; therefore, homemade toys or vaginal toys can get lost in there and cause a very painful, dangerous and embarrassing trip to the hospital.

7. Is his spit enough lubrication?

No, is not! His spit is never enough lubrication for anal sex.

Remember, the anus does not produce its own lubrication; therefore, you must provide it from a good lubricant capable of making the penetration easier and don’t get dry too soon. His saliva will easily get absorbed by your body and won't provide long lasting lubrication.

8. What kind of lube is the best for anal sex?

This is a great anal sex question! A good experience with anal sex will depend mostly on how good is your lubricant and how much you use of it.

The best lubricant for anal sex is a silicone-based anal lubricant. This one last longer, facilitate the penetration, doesn't break the condom, and it’s easy to clean up afterwards; it is simply flushed out in the bathroom.

And remember, the more lubricant you use, the easier the penetration will be.

9. Which position is the best for anal sex?

Doggy style may be the best position for anal sex because it facilitates the access... And, the easier the access, the less uncomfortable it is for you.

Also, it’s a very comfortable position for you, especially when he places some pillows underneath your belly. The more comfortable you are, the more you relax and the easier the penetration it is.

Elevated missionary position is also a good option. Just make sure he puts pillows beneath your butt to elevate you, as well as, under your feet and legs for them to rest, so you can be comfortable enough and not worry about holding the position.

10. Is anal orgasm really possible?

Yes! Anal orgasms are possible, and they actually are very intense, powerful and pleasurable.

With time, patience and practice you would be relaxed enough to start feeling pleasure, and your partner will know what to do to give you some of the best orgasms of your life!

He can pleasure you through analingus, anal fingering, and anal penetration. Each one can give you different kind of anal orgasmic sensations... When he masters the techniques.

11. Is semen in the anus safe?

Ok, it depends, when it comes to pregnancy, yes, semen is safe in the anus because you cannot get pregnant through anal sex. Now, as far as STDs transmission, then, it’s not safe because semen will carry out the infection or disease.

Other than STDs, it’s not dangerous to let him ejaculate in your anus because the semen usually will be flushed out with your next bowel movement; however, sometimes it can leak out at some other times as well; therefore, you may not be comfortable with him ejaculating inside of your anus. It will depend on your personal preference.

However, when it comes to sex, especially anal sex,  using a condom will be always the best option anyway.

12. Is using an enema recommended?

An enema can be used to clean the anal canal from any residue of fecal matter before anal sex, or it can also be used afterwards to clean up the semen.

This is a good option that you can choose to do. It is not completely necessary, but if you feel ok with it, it can make anal sex even better. Just make sure you don’t use enemas too often because too much douching can dry out the anal canal.


There you have them! Some of the most common anal sex questions and answers. To get more information about everything you must know to perform this sexual activity, I recommend you to take a look at Anal Pleasure For Her.

This is the most complete anal sex guide that I've found so far. It gives all the information, recommendations, precautions, tips and techniques to be able to enjoy anal sex in a pleasurable way instead of a painful one.

Now, one thing you need to know, the guide is directed to men. Well, mainly because they are the ones who are pretty much in charge while performing this sexual activity; therefore, they NEED to learn exactly what to do.

However, I highly suggest the Ladies to also read it because as women we MUST be well informed about this sexual activity before letting our man to perform it. It is the safe and responsible thing to do. At the end it is our body!

Remember, you and your partner can absolutely enjoy the pleasurable world of anal sex, you just need to get informed... BOTH of you! So, make sure he reads the guide as well.

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