Hi Ladies!... “Back Door Betty: The Short Anal Sex Guide!” I brought you this article directly from Michael Webb, founder of - The Virtuoso Lover and Oprah Love Expert - because throughout my research, I've found how big of a fantasy is anal sex for men, and how women are terrified about it, mostly because guys don’t know how to do it properly. (Guys click here)
Plain and simple: If done right, anal sex is not supposed to hurt, and if it hurts then you guys (mostly your man) are doing something wrong.
This article is mostly a basic guide for men to learn how to perform anal sex correctly; however, I also placed it on the women's part of the website because men don't always take the time to learn by themselves, and we are the ones who end up guiding them.
You could actually send him a link to the article Back Door Betty: The Short Guide To Anal Sex. He will be thrilled with the possibility of trying anal sex with you. Trust me, it is really amazing how much men crave for this kind of pleasure. Pleasure that is also for you when done properly!
It is also important for you to know how anal sex is done correctly for you to be in a position to know when it’s time to stop, and what’s normal and what’s not.
Remember the majority of men fantasy about it , but it doesn’t mean they know how to do it, and if they don’t; it can really hurt you.
If you decide to give it a try, my advice is first: Get well informed, both of you! Use lots of the right lubricant, go slowly and stop if it hurts. It doesn’t need to hurt. And the most important! Never do something you don’t want to. Anal sex is your choice.
Enjoy the article :)
Back Door Betty: The Short Anal Sex Guide
by Michael Webb
Ah, anal sex. Depending on the person, it is the greatest fantasy or the worst turn-off. Some women run in fear at the thought, while some practically beg for it.
There are men who will do anything to get in the backdoor, and others who couldn’t imagine putting it in the poop shoot (FYI, not even all gay men like anal). If you’re one that wants to see what all the fuss is about, here is a step-by-step guide to making it a pleasurable, or at least tolerable, experience for both. Warning: This is a high-risk activity.
1. Lube it up… a lot! Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubrication. Use a water based lubricant. You can get something flavored if you want to put it on her before you stick your tongue in there. However, never, EVER attempt anal sex without lubrication. It will cause tearing in her anus, not to mention a lot of pain.
2. Relax! Have her take some deep breaths. Perhaps you can give her a massage first to loosen her up. If she is a little ball of tension, it causes the sphincter to tighten. If that’s tight, you’ll never get in.
3. Slip a finger in. Start small, especially if this is her first time. Meaning, use your pinky. Once you’re all lubed up, glide it in and out slowly and gently to get her used to insertion. Next try your ring finger. Really work it out. Insert it, swivel around, tickle.
The more time you can spend the better. If she can’t handle your finger, she sure as hell won’t be able to handle your penis. That is, and I hope for your sake, if your penis is larger than your digits.
4. Now you’re ready. Don’t go jabbing your member straight into the no-no hole. You will be immediately kicked out of bed, maybe forever. Particularly amongst anal virgins, this needs to be gradual.
Tease the anus a bit, and then slide in just the head. Pull out, and then slide it in a little deeper. Keep doing it until you can comfortable get it all the way in. Don’t add speed or pressure until she is ready for it. Well, now you can take it from here.
About the author:
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "The Virtuoso Lover", teaching men how to become exceptional lovers. Unfortunately most men have no idea how to make 'out-of-this-world' love, which leaves women frustrated and disappointed.
Help your man to learn how to be one of the rare men that can really satisfy a woman... YOU! Encourage him to read The Virtuoso Lover.
There you have it Ladies! Now, pass the article to your man! Remind him that this is just a short anal sex guide, there is so much more for him to learn about anal sex! Ask him to read the whole anal section for men Anal Sex Tips: How To Make Anal Sex Pleasurable For Her Instead Of Painful.
Don't forget to let him know that.... If he really wants to have anal sex with you... He must be very well informed! He needs to know how to perform it right, or not Anal sex for him! ;)
Make sure he has all the information he needs. The Virtuoso Lover is a very complete guide that will teach him everything he needs to know not only about anal sex but also about every single way he can sexually please you. I recommend you to take a look at it.
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